Babies should come with instructions

I have soo many things going on right now re: nursing and sleeping- I just wish somewhere there was an answer.

Here is what's up.

Nursing: We are still going strong, he has dropped a feeding- but I think that is normal at this point. However, I am also still nursing to sleep. At night I nurse last thing and he goes down awake, so that is good- but if I don't nurse down and rock for a nap, I don't get one. I tried to address this before, but then he got really sick, and well- it just sucks. The biggest problem I have is I can't seem to adjust his schedule. He is hungry at nap time. He WON'T eat sooner, and he won't nap hungry. I am in a catch 22 because I can't seem to escape this cycle.

Sleeping: B has STTN all the way 4-5 times now. Usually he is getting up at 5 to nurse and then back down to 7:30 or 8. But a few times he has gone all the way through to 6:30 or 7. I am thinking I should night wean now. But if he was asleep for 10 hrs, he is hungry, and I don't know how doing CIO will go if he wakes at say 6 am. The reason I want to night wean is because I am going to wean from nursing when he is 1. I am not going to start making bottles for him for that night feed. I think it would be too much at once to night wean at the same time as weaning- and since his 1st bday is only 6 weeks away (OMG) I should start doing this soon. Did anyone do CIO for a late wakeup like 5-6am? Or do I just get up with him for the day and hope he extends it? Should I set a time like 7am that I refuse to feed him before?

So yeah- the nursing to sleep, the nap training, and the night weaning are all weighing heavily on my mind. I feel like I should do 1 thing at a time and am not sure where to start. Do I start with nap training since that would get away from falling asleep on the boob? Should I start with night weaning so that that is nipped in the bud by the time I want to wean wean? What do I do?

Motherhood sure is a roller coaster with self doubts and questioning.